My Ambitious Post !!

Its 11 days into 2012, well if Mayans had it right, we’d have exactly 1 year to live on this planet (the D day is dec 21^st.. duh) . I do not believe that world might end in 2012, but that doesn’t give me an excuse to think about what I might need to accomplish, given that after 1 year from today, I would not have a planet. Unless I am superman who escapes from krypton as a baby, I would have no home.

Just for fun on a serious note, I thought of some things I might want to accomplish in this 1 year of time and wanted to share it with all of you. Who knows some of you may be playing a part in this quest of mine. Ok so here it goes…

1. Get in touch with all of my friends, whom I haven’t really been in contact or at least sort them out.

This one is straight out of the box, there’s almost 4 different phases of life I have been thru… school, college, USA, University, job. and had different set of friends in each of the phase. It’s come to a point where I get super confused relating to a friend. I met this school friend recently, he was talking of a lot of people from my 12^th STD, and I had no clue who’s who just with names. Esp. some generic Indian names, I have a friend each in every phase. Although, some of the faces had really stuck in my memory like a crush or gorgeous looks, I couldn’t figure out what their name was. This is a good thing to start off, sort out friends thro face book, get in touch with some old friends, and know about what’s happened in their life in this long gap. Who knows at my age, many of them might be married with kids too.

2. Stay away from Internet a.k.a Go outside and spend some time.

This one is tough, it’s horrendous actually. I don’t know how it’s like outside of USA, but here, Internet is like food, you can survive without it but barely. There are times, where you look it up online for outside weather instead of looking out the window. You can easily sit in a single place for a whole day and know, learn and do all the stuff in the world. Which I have done quite a lot in last 3 years. So this year, I want to go out do a lot of outdoor activities and spend less time on the Net and lesser time on facebook. It’s a tough deal but I hope I can pull it off.

3. Move a bit toward the crazier side

I have always been a bit conservative in terms of enjoyment and mischief, my frequency to night clubs, parties, getting drunk shitfaced, sleeping around, smoking etc is very less, close to a finger count, till now. In short, I am not living on the edge. Well, I am responsible enough to know I might trip and fall off the edge some time, but supposedly that’s not cool enough. So I thought maybe this is the year to show off that I could also be a bit on the crazier side. I will try, but this one I can’t guarantee that I will succeed.

4. Make an impact

I know for a fact that I have some talent, I am very resourceful, creative and a sharp intuitive learner who can create a big change. But I am just not applying it properly in my path of life and probably wasting my time. This year should be the year where I impact big, if not in a big level, at least the people around me, should know the value of me through my talents.

5. Relationships, dating… etc…

This one is a lot tougher than any of the stuff on my list. Even staying away from the Internet could be a piece of cake compared to this. So why is it tough, you might ask, well... currently, there’s NO girl in my life, which’s even slightly tilted towards a romantic angle. Added to it, all of the ones I know are either dating, committed, engaged, married or have kids.

Meeting a new girl is even worse, cos with just a Hi, they immediately think that every single guy is the next in line to hit on them. So when making friends has this silly issue, how to move forward looking for a relationship… so as I see it. You can’t try to cross a bridge, which doesn’t exist.

In spite of all the negativity in my words, I am still confident, 2012 is the year, I find the Right one.

Anyways, I hope I have a good 2012 ahead, Mayan theory or not, I have to live through 365 days of this year. So I will try to relish each day as if it was my first day of the rest of my life.

Some one tell me a solution..!!

It’s been 3 months since I relocated to Chicago, with my job.

And I am have been to a lot of places, seen what needs to be seen here and explored the entire North Chicago suburbs. But am still New here... you might ask why?

There’s only one reason. Friends…

Not just any Friend, but Friends who you can go out... spend time... basically hang out. I haven’t even made one friend like that here. Everyone I know here, I knew them pretty much before I came here.

So why have I not made friends? I don’t know the answer. Here’s a list of things anyone would normally do in a new place to get friends and their results with my experience.

1. Friends from past or mutual friends (thro another friend): This is the best source for getting new friends, in a way, cos you already know someone or a friend through another friend.

2 of the 3 people I knew here moved out to elsewhere, when I came here. I did meet the third one but he’s busy with his own life. The Mutual friends I got through my past friends, well they have their own group of friends and social life etc... I see that on FB all the time. . It’s very hard to break into a new group, also I guess it would be little uncomfortable for them with a new person around, hence do not consider me I guess… (Depends on their flexibility and timings too). – TIMING FAIL

2. Work Place Friends: all of the people I work with are family types. Married with 2-3 kids. If hanging out with a pair is called third wheel, what’s it called for hanging out with a Family? Spare wheel? - MAJOR FAIL

3. Meeting new friends at Bars/public events: I have to admit, I still haven’t figured out how they do it in movies, where you find people who are alone in bars and public places. Because, I do not seem to find anyone like that. I tried going out to a bar/public event in OKTOBERFEST, alcohol plus public, seemed like a really good place to make new friends. Well I was partially wrong. I did make 3 new friends; unfortunately, they were college students from Michigan on visit here. So no scope on hang out again..! – PARTIAL FAIL

4. Dating Sites: The modern way of making friends, dating sites. This should work out rite. Its simple Fill out the damn questionnaire for almost 2 hours, upload pics, write about you, be cheesy and manly at same time. Then message girls, even if not for dating, you’d get friends. Simple rite?

No. not at all… I did join a dating site; I literally messaged every single girl around a 10 mile radius. (Why NO guys, u might ask... Men seeking Men is Gay!) . They could reply, not interested in your friendship or such... or they could at least REPLY. – Medium FAIL

(Note: I did make a slight progress, 2 girls became FB friends with me.)

5. Malls and Theaters: If you cannot get a friend in a bar… what are the chances in a Movie theater, esp. in USA… I went to about 1 movie almost every weekend. So far, I have hardly seen 4-5 people in theaters and they are couples, who have come to theater, just to keep snogging. Those things not only disgust you, but also increase your Irritation about being single.

And, when you come to a point, when you think Screw new friends, I’ll stick to my old buddies, people whom I’ve known before from my previous location, they know me, they will be there for me.. Become all senti and all with it... it turns out, half the people don’t even care, even to call once in awhile, or at least Pick up the call once in a life time. The other half, get reminded of me and Call me only when there’s something required of me. They call me multiple times in a day, talk for hours, until I am needed, and forget me once it’s done.

I realized that of all the friends, I have made in the past 4 years here in USA, there’s no one, who has at least visited me once, called me often without asking any questions or help or considered me as a part of their life and said, ‘Am their best friend’.

So tell me. How the F do you make new friends? I honestly don’t know, I have never come across such a problem. A relationship is difficult I agree... even a friendship is so tough?? What has the world come to? Or am I doing something wrong? Is there something I am missing here? I don’t get it. Simply don’t get it.

(This is a Just a Simple rant, any resemblance to many or some of my friends may or may not be co-incidental sometimes true, but it is not intended to hurt anyone. If Hurt, I apologize)