For All the Confused Women Out There...!

Warning: The Following post is a ‘FUN’damental view about girls from a guy’s point of view. Some facts may or may not be wrong or offensive and it’s not intended to target any particular person or group.

I recently had conversations with many girls as usual, but interestingly, I found a knot in all these conversations, it was during the topic about the new Tamil movie Vinnai thandi varuvaaya. So before I go into the topic, let me give a brief summary about the movie’s plot. It’s a simple love story, guy meets girl, falls in love. Girl’s dad opposes, girl gives up then breaks up and marries someone else, and guy makes a movie about it. It’s purely about Love. A simple, pretty realistic thing in any normal person’s life.

So what’s the knot? Its Trisha’s character. She’s shown to be quite confused about the relationship; she’s not able to decide if the relationship is important or parents. In fact, she stops her wedding at last moment for her love, but then breaks up with him for a more simpler reason that ‘dad won’t accept’. She moves on with her life, getting married to a guy her parents chose for her... Indian style Arranged marriage.

All the girls I spoke (about 8 girls) about the movie, had this to say. They all had felt connection with Trisha’s character regarding the confusion with relationship. Yes. All of them are in a relationship but still confused if it’s the right decision. They all said the same; they saw themselves in Trisha’s position. Even though the situations differ, coz it was not dad’s opposition to their love for all of them. One or two might have that fear, but other’s had really cool situations. Still they had this confusion all the time. It was only about the relationship. Even though they love the guy, purely mutual and have a lot of feelings for each other and it was not some time pass relationship or a lustful one either.

So why is this confusion? I say it’s a normal behavior. It’s a general characteristic of the female species. According to Darwinian and dawkin’s theories of evolution, it is the key to the road of evolution otherwise called the ‘mate selection’. We, humans and animals are the same when it comes to mate selection. Animals mate only for reproduction. So they look only for the best mate for a better offspring, it is the female’s choice of mate selection; females own the right to decide whom she mates with in order to reproduce. Hence males have to woo the females in different ways to get the female’s attention and attraction. In fact, it’s of the one reason why all the male species have beautiful features than females, ex. Lion, peacock, etc… simply just to attract females.

Since females have the power to choose their mate, it is very essential to use it responsibly. Hence, they find the “Right one”. Same with humans too, but we expect more than just reproduction and sexual pleasure, we need emotional attachment and care for a long period of our life. Hence, female species in humans need to find the “right one” very carefully and so they become very picky or pick everyone.

When a girl likes a guy, then gets into relationship with him, and gets to know him better, she might have a second thought about him and the direction of relationship, if she doesn’t feel that he’s the right one, and then the confusion starts. If the girl has tendency to give up expectations and settle down with the available one, it ends well. Otherwise, the relationship ends and the girl eventually find another one or search for possibly the right one. A good illustration of this character in women is shown in the movie “500 days of summer”. (watch the movie, you’d definitely know what am talking here)

Ok… if women get to choose their mate. What about men? What can they do ? This is where it hurts the male ego. Males have a sense of dominance and a bigger ego that lives within. In Humans, Men knew about this evolutionary characteristic of female species at a very early stage, and then established a dominant society, where the women were degraded to a mere sex machine. In ancient Greek and Indian civilizations especially, women were not given the respect they deserve. Greeks treated women just as a source of reproduction only, so that they wouldn’t have a choice of finding their mate but rather submit to any male’s sexual favors. Indian society especially in certain caste and communities; women were treated even worse, like not being let out of the house kitchen, no education, being married to a man as a child and also burnt to death when dead husband is being cremated and a marriage system where men chose the women as a mate, an inverse effect. although there’s exceptions as seen in epics like Mahabharata and Ramayana, where the bride was allowed to choose the groom for her marriage, in form of a game or sport.

Not only in old times, still in India, many don’t get to make marriage choices for the most part. They settle down with the man their parents choose for them, and live a life, even though the guy may or may not be the right one. Of course, things are changing with the changing times, like in western countries, it is turning out to be a love marriage with parent’s acceptance these days, then also, and most of it is in cities.

So women out there… if you are confused about the relationship, it does not entirely mean that you are with the wrong person, You might be with the right guy, but yet to find that out in him but if you know, you are with the right one. No matter what may come, don’t lose him and Girls know how to get what they want.

BAD handwriting = Famous personality ???

This is one of my old blog posts, revamped and renewed for your view in my new blog.

A new theory i put forward to this world, it is about the common trait everyone would definitely have.

Handwriting !

Even though its a modern age and people are now hardly writing on paper, we still need to learn it, its one of the basic use of our hand. be it left handed or right handed, we write our own style and it could be legible, neat and clear or the opposite being bad, scribbled and seems like a modern art.

Here's my theory,

Theory 1 : BAD handwriting = famous personality ???

" a person with bad handwriting may be destined to be a famous personality in making"

this theory applies only to males, since females usually have a neat and curvy handwriting and hardly do you find a girl who has bad handwriting. ( maybe that's why girl's hands are compared with petals !)

How did i come up with this theory ?

Interestingly, i did this research on great personalities throughout history in various fields and their hand writings, and guess what.. all these great personalities had one common thing about their hand writing, it was bad, not legible or worse like a scribbling. this handwriting trait is seen worldwide, irrespective of age and race.

Here are few samples

1.Albert Einstein , renowned scientist and a great genius ever to walk the earth...

http://www.graphology.it/wp-content/uploads/handwriting021.jpg

2. Bill Gates , the richest man alive, founder of Microsoft.

http://www.myhandwriting.com/images/billgate.jpg

3. Mahatma Gandhi, Father of the Indian nation, non violence activist

http://www.handwriting.org/images/samples/mgandhi.gif

4. Adolf Hitler , a Terror during WW2 and an evil genius.

http://www.sisde.it/Gnosis/Rivista6.nsf/vAllegati/Hitler.jpg/$File/Hitler.jpg?OpenElement

5.Beethoven, musical genius

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3072/2554654204_1d32764d1b.jpg

See.. no matter if they are good, evil, scientific or artistic, their handwriting is bad, not even legible, even though i have shown only a few samples ( space constraints !!!) almost all the hand writings of the famous celebrities i could research about, showed the same trait.. for example, you can try googling the following people's hand writings - Isaac newton, Bill Clinton, Abraham Lincoln, Jawaharlal Nehru, Micheal Jackson, Sachin Tendulkar, john Lennon.

As any theory would have, there were exceptions such as Thomas Alva Edison and Leonardo da vinci ( also ambidextrous )who had very good and neat handwriting.

so i came to this conclusion, may be people out there with bad handwriting.. In future, Might become a famous personality. who knows.. so guys don't worry if u had a bad handwriting, cheer up, u might be lucky enough to become someone like the above mentioned personalities.

Why i did all these research in the first place... its because, i too have a really bad handwriting..!!!

Unconscious Fun !

I have a serious problem with hospitals and doctors. I don't know why, but I am scared of doctors and afraid to go into a hospital. although, i am very fine with injections, needles and medicines, which generally create aversion. why am not fine with doctors ? its really a mystery but i know why i hate hospitals, its because of the sanitary smell of the disinfectant. the smell makes me feel sick and fall ill even if i am healthy.

so i avoided going to hospitals or doctors from my childhood but unfortunately, i had to visit a hospital for an endoscopy procedure, in the USA of all the places. why endoscopy, that's due to my recent H.Pylori infection and a chance of stomach ulcer, which caused my health to go bad. I was not willing to go do the endoscopy due to my phobia and postponed it for quite sometime. but things became worse and i was pushed/forced into doing the procedure. so the description of the day as follows.

for those who don't know what am talking about... Endoscopy is a procedure where they send a optical tube with a camera inside your mouth through the food pipe and into the stomach and intestine to check for any abnormality in the tissues. I imagined it the whole thing and got really scared about it. the day before the procedure, i was asked to take only clear liquids such as water, soda, Gatorade etc... no solid foods and definitely no eating or drinking after midnight. unfortunately i had attended a birthday party that night,which had delicious chocolate cake and food and yes.. i couldn't have any of it. :(

the next day, a friend took me to the hospital, i finished my registration and they asked me to go into a room where the nurse checked me in. i was taken to a small section surrounded by a wall of curtains and inside it was a bed. i was asked to change into a hospital gown. the nurse made me lie on the bed and covered me with a warm blanket and then, an inflatable cuff was strapped to my left arm to record blood pressure. I was injected with a needle in right arm for the saline, a small sensor was put on my right index finger to check my oxygen rate. lying on the bed, i was feeling so scared, i felt like a seriously ill patient, going for a radical surgery. the saline started to flow through my veins and it had a burning effect initially, later it subsided and i started feeling quite sleepy. I tried being awake all the time but was not able to control it, even though i was lying on the bed for 15 minutes it seemed like hours. a doctor then came to me, introduced himself as the anesthesiologist and asked me a lot of questions for the paperwork, i answered them all in a sleepy state.

After sometime, the whole bed was pushed into a series of rooms and later into a small room where the endoscopy was supposed to take place. the room was very small and i felt like i was in an operation theater. indeed, things started happening after, made me more scared and thought i was mistaken for a surgery patient because they put an oxygen mask, told me that i was going to be given a Anesthetic to put me into sleep. a small thing with a hole was put into my mouth, so i couldn't close it. the doctor then was explaining what is going to happen and as she was explaining things, the Anesthesiologist told me he was injecting the Anesthetic and i felt a cool liquid rushing into my system. that's the last thing i remember, i went unconscious, into a bliss, no dreams, no subconscious state. the first time ever in my life i was unconscious.

I later remember someone shaking me and i woke up with a jerk, it was a nurse. i was in a new room and my friend was sitting in the place where the doctor was before. I didn't know for how long had i been sleeping. i was then given a apple juice, the doctor came and told me there were no ulcers and only stomach inflammations were found. then i was discharged after sometime, i was feeling drowsy and tired, one part of my mind was trying to remember what happened during my unconscious state but in vain. I came back home, had food and slept like a baby again for a long time.

It was one of a kind experience i had in the USA. i really admired the level of sophistication they had in the hospitals. no wonder health care is s**t expensive here. the procedure actually costs a whooping $1200 dollars without a health insurance. I am not sure, if I'd want to go to hospital again, but the experience of Anesthetic unconsciousness intrigues me a lot. i really wonder what happened, why the brain doesn't remember a single second and why no dreams.

I want to have that experience again, it was roughly two hours of the unconsciousness, but i enjoyed it without actually experiencing it. Funny Ain't it.