Some one tell me a solution..!!

It’s been 3 months since I relocated to Chicago, with my job.

And I am have been to a lot of places, seen what needs to be seen here and explored the entire North Chicago suburbs. But am still New here... you might ask why?

There’s only one reason. Friends…

Not just any Friend, but Friends who you can go out... spend time... basically hang out. I haven’t even made one friend like that here. Everyone I know here, I knew them pretty much before I came here.

So why have I not made friends? I don’t know the answer. Here’s a list of things anyone would normally do in a new place to get friends and their results with my experience.

1. Friends from past or mutual friends (thro another friend): This is the best source for getting new friends, in a way, cos you already know someone or a friend through another friend.

2 of the 3 people I knew here moved out to elsewhere, when I came here. I did meet the third one but he’s busy with his own life. The Mutual friends I got through my past friends, well they have their own group of friends and social life etc... I see that on FB all the time. . It’s very hard to break into a new group, also I guess it would be little uncomfortable for them with a new person around, hence do not consider me I guess… (Depends on their flexibility and timings too). – TIMING FAIL

2. Work Place Friends: all of the people I work with are family types. Married with 2-3 kids. If hanging out with a pair is called third wheel, what’s it called for hanging out with a Family? Spare wheel? - MAJOR FAIL

3. Meeting new friends at Bars/public events: I have to admit, I still haven’t figured out how they do it in movies, where you find people who are alone in bars and public places. Because, I do not seem to find anyone like that. I tried going out to a bar/public event in OKTOBERFEST, alcohol plus public, seemed like a really good place to make new friends. Well I was partially wrong. I did make 3 new friends; unfortunately, they were college students from Michigan on visit here. So no scope on hang out again..! – PARTIAL FAIL

4. Dating Sites: The modern way of making friends, dating sites. This should work out rite. Its simple Fill out the damn questionnaire for almost 2 hours, upload pics, write about you, be cheesy and manly at same time. Then message girls, even if not for dating, you’d get friends. Simple rite?

No. not at all… I did join a dating site; I literally messaged every single girl around a 10 mile radius. (Why NO guys, u might ask... Men seeking Men is Gay!) . They could reply, not interested in your friendship or such... or they could at least REPLY. – Medium FAIL

(Note: I did make a slight progress, 2 girls became FB friends with me.)

5. Malls and Theaters: If you cannot get a friend in a bar… what are the chances in a Movie theater, esp. in USA… I went to about 1 movie almost every weekend. So far, I have hardly seen 4-5 people in theaters and they are couples, who have come to theater, just to keep snogging. Those things not only disgust you, but also increase your Irritation about being single.

And, when you come to a point, when you think Screw new friends, I’ll stick to my old buddies, people whom I’ve known before from my previous location, they know me, they will be there for me.. Become all senti and all with it... it turns out, half the people don’t even care, even to call once in awhile, or at least Pick up the call once in a life time. The other half, get reminded of me and Call me only when there’s something required of me. They call me multiple times in a day, talk for hours, until I am needed, and forget me once it’s done.

I realized that of all the friends, I have made in the past 4 years here in USA, there’s no one, who has at least visited me once, called me often without asking any questions or help or considered me as a part of their life and said, ‘Am their best friend’.

So tell me. How the F do you make new friends? I honestly don’t know, I have never come across such a problem. A relationship is difficult I agree... even a friendship is so tough?? What has the world come to? Or am I doing something wrong? Is there something I am missing here? I don’t get it. Simply don’t get it.

(This is a Just a Simple rant, any resemblance to many or some of my friends may or may not be co-incidental sometimes true, but it is not intended to hurt anyone. If Hurt, I apologize)

Love, Relationships and Mathematics.

It's a very complicated title, ain't it? Love and Mathematics? Seems like they both are extremes rite? But I think I have found a bit of similarity between them... a bit of similarity in predicting a wee bit of relationships and possibly LOVE...

Follow the article for more details.

Have you ever come across widgets and websites, such as Love calculator, love test etc. there are plenty available in the web and mobile apps. They are basically a mathematical algorithm that matches you and your partner's name, date of birth information and gives you a calculated output. These apps are only for fun purposes, nothing serious about it, but these Love widgets are the main aspect of my article here.

When, I was bored with nothing to do last weekend, while browsing online, I hit upon one such app called the 'Love guru'. This app like any other gets you and your partner's NAMES and gives out a little bit detailed percentage output in 4 categories - Love, work, sex and interests along with a overall score and a Letter grade.

As I said before, I was bored and for passing time, I played with it, using names of my friends and family, whom I know are in relationships or married... For my amusement and surprise, it turned out that people who are in relationship for at least 3 years or more had an overall score of minimum 75% with a grade of B+ and above.

The most surprising fact was that there were no exceptions. I would have tried a sample set of 25 plus couples I know of, and everyone scored high. In fact, some of them scored even higher like 90% and A+.

I even tried a sample of couples, who were in relationship and failed. Their score as expected fell below an average of 65% with a grade of C and below.

I was so intrigued with the results, that I started entering names of famous celebrities and fictional couples like Romeo & Juliet, Laila & Majnu, Brad & Angelina etc... I used a sample set of 25 couples here too. Many of them, including some animal characters and an Inter-galatical couple in Jake & Neytiri from Avatar, Scored the same level as the real ones, but this category had some exceptions. For example, Ron & Hermione from harry potter, Failed miserably.

So mathematically speaking... Does this imply that there is a connection between the name and relationships of people? Meaning, certain names go along better than others or is it just a well designed application/algorithm?

There's a bit of science behind this name connection. In Indian Arranged marriages, when horoscopes are matched, one of the Parameters is the Name; they look for matching names too. Astrology is accepted as a science. So if scientifically accepted; could this name compatibility calculating algorithm be used as a potential date matching tool?

But after all, that’s said and done, when it comes to the conclusion...

LOVE, it's really complicated... if Love and Relationships were as simple as calculating it mathematically, No one would be Single… who knows, maybe no one would be in relationships either.

Try it yourself; Even if it isn't science, it’s definitely fun. Who knows... You could be one of those 25 plus couples.

P.S. I am sure; you have a Question, if I tried this app for personal use. In fact YES, I did try matching my name with some potential girls, whom I would like to date. But unfortunately, my name being the different, unique and badass name of all... the matches barely crossed 60% with maximum being 68% and a grade of C.